Recently, he met a girl on the app Bumble, and the two began to casually date.At first, she welcomed the emotional vulnerability between the two of them.But perhaps we’re so misunderstood by society-at-large because even Millennials themselves haven’t quite decided what we want.Despite that confusion, the caricature of the commitment-phobic, sex-starved, Tinder-obsessed, strictly-a-casual-dater Millennial had to come from somewhere, and the Internet is probably to blame: Most Millennials project an outgoing version of ourselves on social media that we’re too cautious to actually live out in reality. With that camaraderie comes a lessening of the shame that the generations before ours felt about sex.Millennials want to live in that in-between space, where our addiction to social media doesn’t exclude personal intimacy, but we haven’t mastered how to balance our needs yet.The generation ahead us is fluent in technology; those now-teenagers were raised on it.Our entire approach to adulthood has shifted, in fact, from where we choose to live, to how long we stay in school.
But for Millennials, online dating seems to have further complicated the already mysterious process of falling in love.As much as Millennials share online, they still don’t trust it to find love.This is an era of experimentation for young people as they try to have it all: their obsession with the Internet and their desire for intimacy.What might be different with this generation is that the majority of Millennials received sex-education (87 percent), and grew up with an awareness, and a fear, of the AIDS epidemic, making us more hesitant when it comes to sexual encounters.Millennials might actually be a cautious bunch in general, less inclined to take risks: Last year, the National Institute on Drug Abuse reported that young people these days are far less likely to use drugs, abuse alcohol, and use tobacco.If you’re single, struggling to reconcile the distance that the Internet somehow both creates and closes between potential partners, how better to avoid the social awkwardness of face-to-face interactions and assuage the fear of rejection than by sliding into some hot girl’s DMs, comfortable in the illusion of a personal conversation without actually having one?Perhaps young people are putting off sex in increasing numbers because they’re afraid that when the moment of intimacy actually arrives, they won’t know how to act.They got close quickly, but after a couple months she began to push him away, until she ghosted him completely.“I think the culture we live in leads to this idea that there could always be someone else out there, so we don’t want to get attached to anyone,” he says.But for adults born in 1990 from 1996, that percentage jumped to 15 percent. Sherman says, that’s a dramatic difference – but he also clarifies that that doesn’t mean Millennials are practicing abstinence, either.After all, the other 85 percent of these younger Millennials are having sex. Sherman has a couple theories about why an increasing number of young adults are reporting that they’re sexually inactive.