The fact is – you’re unlikely to meet a con artist or lunatic.
But in all likelihood, you’re probably going to have a drink with someone who just doesn’t do it for you. I recall a friend excitedly going off for a first date with a chap - ‘I just have a good feeling about this one, he’s an academic you know’ - only to discover he was a librarian who spent the entire meal talking about dust jackets.
No longer do we see tabloid headlines screaming ‘meet the couple who found love ON THE INTERNET!
’ For Britain’s 16 million singles, looking for love online is the norm.
No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.
They conducted a survey of 433 online daters and found that the longer they waited to meet a match in person, the more likely they were to feel let down.
But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.
Many macchiatos maketh the match and not all of us are great in writing). Which of your needs did you think they might fulfil?
But you also don’t want to put it off for too long. Well, there are things you can take away from it for next time. Should you avoid people who make grammatical errors in their profile? But answering these questions is a useful way to progress the process of online dating.
Also, when it's just right, the person slips into your life so seamlessly, it feels like you could have just met them at a bar on any given night.
You feel like, put in your presence in any way, you would have ended up together regardless.
Studies have suggested that anything between 35 and 50 per cent of all couples in the UK, now meet via the web.
What’s more, a study by dating site e Harmony, estimated that seven in ten couples will have done so by 2040 – with 55 to 64-year-olds experiencing the biggest boom (an expected 30 per cent rise between 20).
One friend tells me that, if she has a positive feeling about someone, she gives them the details of her Facebook account and switches to messaging them away from the dating site.
That way, you can mutually scout each other’s profiles and get a clearer impression of whether you’d get along socially. But if they don’t have anything to hide (and assuming you don’t) it’s one way to let someone in, before taking the step to meet them – especially if you don’t live particularly near one another. I’m not advising that you throw caution to the wind and arrange a date for every day of the week (although if you feel confident enough to do so, then go for it.
That trend that was significantly more obvious after the 17 to 23 day ‘tipping point’. That its lead researcher, Artemio Ramirez Jr., an Associate Professor, met his wife online in 2005.
Their first date was within that all-important window, of course (although he didn’t realise it at the time).