It's actually ended up lasting a year because after seven months, I met someone—and it was IRL.
The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.
Then, in December of 2015, I decided I would take a break from online dating—and that unlike my previous "breaks," this one would last for more than a few weeks." I projected confidence, and I wasn't willing to settle.Seeing that contrast made me realize how nervous and desperate to please I'd been in the past. While nervous people come off like they have something to be nervous about, confident people come off like they have something to be confident about—and others want to know what that something is.7. " Because I hadn't experienced this thought process in a while, I caught it very early on and was able to say, "Down, girl. I put up with people I shouldn't have Getting more comfortable being single helped me see what lengths I'd gone to in order to avoid singledom.During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.Of course, nothing about me had changed, so this line of reasoning didn't actually make any sense.Once I got over that hump, it was nice to not have people constantly evaluating how good my photos looked, and I think it made me, in turn, a bit less preoccupied with my looks.5.Dating sites can cause major anxiety A recent study in found that phone addiction causes depression and anxiety, and in my experience, online dating addiction has the same effects.When you rely on something for self-esteem or excitement, you feel disappointed when you don't see these rewards and you withdraw from other sources of happiness.Between the thrill of receiving a notification and the game-like aspect of swiping, I was no longer even making the conscious choice to engage in it.I felt like a lab rat mindlessly chasing its next pellet of food.3.