8) “By deliberately putting forth his energy and attention to fulfill a woman’s romantic needs long after a woman has accepted him, a man trains himself to experience that the little romantic gestures of dating are not just to win a woman over but are actually required and necessary to sustain her responsiveness” (p 70).9) “In stage three, a man should remember that a woman feels most loved and supported when he offers to be of assistance.It is a sign of trust, goodwill, and friendship” (p 38).4) When a woman is finally “getting her needs met, then and only then is his happiness hers” (p 44)., however, provides deeper insight into the world of couples trying to figure out the rules and taboos to dating a Martian or Venusian and holds keys that will unlock the mystery of communication and how to build a stronger and more loving relationship with your partner. Gray explains, “this book is directly written for singles and dating couples who are interested in finding true and lasting love” (p xiii).But for this post I will focus primarily on some helpful information about how Martians (often of the male gender) and Venusians (often of the female gender) communicate and how they are interpreted and how each partner can work to better express themselves and learn how to communicate more efficiently.Why do we think that love just happens and we don’t need to prepare ourselves to be the best we can be so we can bring the best to our partner and our relationship? Avoiding each other, but in the end always coming back to each other and the conversations flow and both of you just click into place.The truth is that love needs work to last and develop into a strong relationship but true love doesn’t need work to be recognized and respected. One night you attend a party when you are filled with doubts about even going and then suddenly you fall into a seat across the very person you have longed waited to meet. And both of you know that the Universe has smashed two oceans into each other and it is such a wonderful feeling.
His doubts are dispelled not primarily by what she does for him, but by how she responds to what he does for her” (p 49).Most people watch their Facebook posts fill up with couples happily in love and couples becoming engaged and writhe with secret envy, asking “How the hell does this even happen? ” And yet we all desire to be successful in our career and so we study and get degrees and learn the trades and spend countless hours learning how to be successful, and yet we automatically assume love will just happen. Love is as delicate as a plant and needs attention, caring and respect.And these characteristics can also be found in one who spends time studying over a book in a library preparing for an exam.Soul mates are not perfect, but perfect for us” (p 14-17).But with that said, it does not hurt to learn about your partner’s communication patterns and prepare yourself to be the best you can be.A woman needs a man who will make her feel special, unique and secure.“She needs to feel that he adores, cares for, understands, and respects her so much that he will always be there for her,” writes Dr. A Martian, therefore, needs to understand better how Venusians think, act, behave, and speak; otherwise a Martian will misinterpret his favorite Venusian.It is not enough merely to be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well” (p 3).There is not a person who I have not met who does not wish to be successful in love.“When we misinterpret each other, it can cause us to sabotage our relationships unknowingly,” writes Dr. “A woman may mistakenly conclude her date is ‘just another man incapable of making a commitment’ and give up.A man may think his date is another woman whose needs may smother him and take away his freedom. “No matter how sincere you are, if your partner is misinterpreting your innocent and automatic reactions and responses, your attempts to create a relationship may be unsuccessful.