I know you can adopt/surragecy/fostering these days but not everyone feels able to do that.
Im fairly open minded about children but that may change as i get older and if having my own child with my partner was reallly important to me then having a relationship with an intersex partner who could not do that would be a lot harder.
I dont think it would end such a relationship if you loved them but like many challenges in life it could be hard to deal with.
Personally i would like to know if someone was intersex before a relationship became sexual as unwanted surprises might be off putting!!
At the time I knew him,he lived and identified as male. S.)so anything other would have been impractical,he was a very warm,intelligent and honest person,and I would have been okay if the relationship had progressed as anything more than friends.
At the time,he said he had no intention of having any surgical procedures,and had intended on continuing to live his life as a heterosexual male. We did spend a few weeks together on holiday and had a great time. K., I guess he drastically changed his mind on how he wanted to live as I understand through mutual friends that he is now living his life full time as a woman.
Getting them undressed and seeing a c*ck when you wernt expecting it might be offputting and would probably get a "WTF" type reaction!!!!!I did know someone who was intersexed , i always knew her as female as she was my sisters friend and never thought of her any different than female .As far as i know she remained on her own and became a farmer , dont know about now lost touch in the 70s .depends what we define someones sex by really.There has to be that basic chemistry in my opinion for any relationship.I could imagine in some relationships an inability to bear children may be a deal breaker too.Sexual identify comes from many factors including genetics, hormones, upbringing etc.On balance of probabilities Id choose to have my intersex child put into one distinct sex as in likely terms less psychological harm will happen.An intersex child growing up as the wrong sex will come to no more harm than a normally sexed child who grows up to become TV and has the ops etc.Psychologically it would be similar with the exception of course that the intersex child would find out about the childhood ops and may have resentment as a result.Obviously genetics giving you the sex of a person merely means that "intersex" people are just deformed rather than a specific sex.If you go by genitalia then the answers are not obvious!!