The reports on the state of unmarried Black women are at an all-time high, with a slew of outlets noting that 70 percent of them have never tied the knot.But it’s not just Black women, according to relationship expert Sil Lai Abrams, who points to an overall decline in the marriage rate and referencing the 2011 Pew Research Study that showed 51 percent of American women are unmarried.Kia: We call them “diva dudes.” On paper, they are all good: educated, handsome, employed. They have lots of choices, which I think is where the entitlement comes in a lot of times. When you think about the 12-to-1, 8-to-1 or whatever it is, you have to factor in the [women] men just don’t like.
It seems as if they feel entitled, so they act accordingly. It’s because there are some women who let certain behaviors slide. African-American men are really not there because of things such as mass incarceration and homicide.Technology can be good, but it can also be kind of crazy.Tracy: I purposely don’t give my full name for that reason.As a leader in black dating, we successfully bring together black singles from around the world.100s of happy men and women have met their soul mates on Black Cupid and shared their stories with us. Whether you’re looking for a date or the love of your life, find them in a fun and secure environment on Black Cupid. Alisa: There are people out there who don’t have character—and I’m talking about women—who these guys are encountering, who can’t bring to the table what I can. If it doesn’t happen, I’m not going to be like, “Oh God, there’s something wrong with me.” I think a lot of women have been programmed that if we’re not married, if we don’t have a ring, then there’s something wrong with us.And I can’t be skewed by what the media are saying about numbers because the right guy is out there for me. I don’t think it’s as much of a numbers game as you think. We’re not really compatible.” Cecilia: You are dating to get to know somebody. Kia: [I do] a lot of daytime dating or I date when my son is away for the weekend. It’s my job to make sure my son respects me and doesn’t see different men in and out of the house. In my 20s, every guy I dated always had to possibly be ‘the one.’ But I hadn’t found my purpose.So if you’re a single woman in a city such as Atlanta, what do you do to hook up with an eligible and available prospect? What was immediately apparent is how technology has drastically changed the way men and women meet and get to know each other: Cecilia: Dating is a little different because of technology. It’s not like when you were 20 years old and you had to wait for the phone to ring and you built up to something.We asked this and other questions of Cecilia Bailey, 43, a financial business coach from Chicago; Tracy Nicole, 37, an author/writer and Atlanta native; Kia Smith, 30, a social media coordinator from Gadsden, Ala.; Krystal Gambrell, 27, a speech-language pathologist from Atlanta; Alisa Benjamin, 40, an interior designer from Portland, Ore.; and Erin Harper, 32, a Ph. Alisa: They don’t have the old-fashioned—for lack of a better term—work ethic toward dating.Discover how online dating sites make finding singles in the United States, Canada, and all over the world simple, safe and fun!Once you browse profiles and pictures start flirting, messaging and connecting with other members of the Senior Black People community.