Cross-sex friendships were reported by both women and men as providing less help and loyalty than same-sex relationships.
Otherwise, cross-sex friendship functioning was described by men as closely resembling same-sex friendships, but women reported cross-sex relations as providing less acceptance, less intimacy, and more companionship than same-sex ones.
If not kept in check, a totally innocent relationship could end up causing unnecessary harm to your marriage.“I think it is okay to have friendships with the opposite sex.
But I don’t share with other women what I haven’t shared with my wife,” says Will Honeycutt.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of part 1 of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 2: Men Initiate, Women Respond » One of the big questions hovering around the topic of courtship and dating is the role of friendship.
How intimate of a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is OK? Won't the friendship be ruined if one of us expresses romantic interest and the other doesn't respond favorably?
Bottom line: I believe it is difficult and rare — as a practical matter — to honor these principles in the context of a close, intimate friendship between two single Christians of the opposite sex.
If you’re feeling confused, take some time to examine your relationship. Do you want to try to take the relationship to the next level?Here are a few of them:“If you answered 'yes' to one or more of the questions above, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage,” Linaman says.“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.First Thessalonians 4:1-8 admonishes us not to wrong or "defraud" our brother or sister by implying a marital level of commitment (through sexual involvement) when it does not exist.As I've discussed before, a broad (but sound) implication of this passage is that "defrauding" could include inappropriate emotional — as well as physical — intimacy.As people marry later in life, many are bringing long-term opposite-sex friendships into their marriage relationship.While the friendships were great during singlehood, in marriage, these relationships may prove problematic.“I think it is okay for married people to have opposite-sex friends,” says Lisa Stewart.“I think sometimes it is healthy to get input from another female.But on a regular basis I should not be sharing intimate issues with a woman who is not my wife.”Here are Linaman's tips to help you manage opposite-sex friendships so they don't threaten your marriage relationship: While opposite-sex friendships do have the potential to create problems in a marriage, these friendships can enhance your relationship with your spouse if appropriate boundaries are in place.“However, I believe out of respect for your spouse that even if you were close friends before the marriage, there ought to be strong boundaries around that relationship.“For example, I would not be comfortable with my husband meeting a woman for coffee on a regular basis to talk about what is going on in his life. “However, give special consideration to a number of factors that, if ignored, can potentially threaten your marriage.”Wondering whether or not a close friendship with someone of the opposite-sex poses a threat to your marriage?That is a conversation he ought to be having with me.”“It is possible for married people to have healthy opposite-sex friendships,” says Dr. If so, Linaman offers 20 questions for you to answer.