To avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again, first you've got to recognize them.
So here goes: Dating Mistake #1: Approaching Him First.
Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).
Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.
Correct refers to eliminating faults, errors, or defects: I corrected the spelling mistakes.
If you want to get married but the guy you've been dating for over a year still isn't sure, set a time limit of how long you're willing to wait then stick to it.
Once D-Day (decision day) arrives, and he's still waffling, then move on and do not look back (if he's ever going to know and man up to a proposal, this will be your best - and his last - chance).
Quick Fix: You need to start pacing the relationship.
Do : Don't see him more than once or twice a week, don't talk more than ten minutes on the phone, don't open up too fast, or introduce him to your friends before he introduces you to his.
If you're still wallowing in despair over a break up, then put your profile on-line, start going to singles events, and let friends know you're available for set-ups.
There is no better "healing" than the attention several new suitors.
If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.
If not, then let him float away now, before he wastes more of your time and ends up breaking your heart. Look approachable and friendly - that's all the encouragement your future (adoring) husband needs. You've just met the guy and you're telling him about the back-stabber in your office, the fight you had with your sister, the details of your recent root canal. During the first few dates, the man is still essentially a stranger.
The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).
More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.