Dear Geoff, Glad to hear you found someone special, and even happier that you spoke up.Most of the people that write about online dating write about what’s wrong with it. I mean, that’s what news is – emphasize the bad, misery loves company, etc.If you choose to wait for lightning to strike until you go on another date with the “right” guy, you might be waiting a long, long time. Listen, you might think I’m nuts to keep on preaching positivity. All I know is that it’s freakin’ HARD to meet someone.
He told me a story about a friend of his whose internet date had turned out to be morbidly obese as evidence that it was an avenue to be avioded at all costs.Narcissists envy those they perceive as nearly perfect. A narcissist’s brain cannot feel empathy, so it is impossible for a narcissist to achieve real intimacy with anyone. Narcissists usually have tremendously high self-confidence and put themselves on a pedestal, above everyone else.In the beginning they can be very seductive and witty. But if you do, don’t count on living happily ever after. They belittle those they view as inferior and expect everyone to always go along with them. Self-esteem and self-confidence frequently get mistaken for one another, but they are two separate things.Turn on the TV and it’s not about kittens being saved from trees, but drive-by shootings.That doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of kittens saved from trees.I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.And if it hasn’t happened to you yet, you can say “What’s wrong with these terrible people on these awful sites?” Or you can ask, “How can I make this work for me, despite the obvious flaws? But I’ll tell you, all it takes is one person – and you’ll be standing right with me.When I responded thata) There are worse things in life then having dinner with someone who you find unattractive, andb) His friend was at fault for not exchanging photos before meeting uphe was totally unconvinced, and more then a tad miffed that i should question his judgement.(Bear in mind that there weren’t even PCs around he was last single)Anyway, my dad’s friend has subsequently met a great woman on the internet with whom he is in a committed relationship.