That way you don't force her to change her life, yet still make her aware of the concerns.
Several answers already, but I want to address a couple of your concerns.
He owns his own successful business although he still lives with parents.
I know its only 8 years difference but it's the difference between him being at an age where he must be thinking about starting a family, marriage, etc and her starting out in life. Do I let them get on with it or should I try to explain my above concerns at the risk of pushing them together?
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Justin is known as a bit of a playa in Hollywood, and since his split with Selena Gomez, he has been linked to Hailey Baldwin, Kourtney Kardashian and Chantel Jefferies.
If the subject of marriage has come up, you can start bargaining of some kind.
Ask if they can wait for marriage until she finishes her education.
You can not tell her to stop seeing her boyfriend, and you should not warn her from her boyfriend only to be able to tell her "I told you so" when/if things go south.
What you can do, depending on your relationship to her, is to share your concerns, while acknowledging that they are irrational.
I was 19 and ran off with a 27 year old woman from America. My mother disowned me and we didn't speak for a year. I was reckless and foolish and as an adult 20 years later I can easily recognize this.
My relationship with my wife lasted 16 years and produced 3 lovely children. However, as MY children reach their teenage years I of course see everything from the perspective as a parent.
A theoretical 17 year old man could equally, if not more so, be with her for only one reason. As others have said, you need to have some serious talks with your daughter.
Equally, becoming pregnant and having to postpone things such as career isn't age relevant. If the relationship develops, you could express your concerns, though not in a judgemental way - otherwise you could risk damaging your relationship with your daughter and pushing them together. If she thinks she is in love, but the subject of marriage has not come up, you still have time. If this person is going to join your family, it should be on friendly and welcoming terms.
I have just found out that my 17 year old daughter is going out with a local 25 year old. They haven't shared the same live experiences, they'll soon want different things, etc. I'm concerned that she'll get hurt, pregnant or that, even if they are truly in love, she'll end up growing up too quickly and miss out on things girls her age do like university, traveling, and building a career.
I just think that, at their ages, they cannot possibly have anything in common.